Thomas Neary b.c. 1833 in Roscommon (tombstone) emigrated to Baltimore, Maryland in April 1852 (ships list which confirmed family story). Married Elizabeth McGuigan October, 1852 ( church record which also confirmed family story). Only reference ever for reason for leaving was " things got difficult after a landlord was killed, and his brother was going to get all the land anyway." That sure narrows it down!
Children: John,James, Margaret, Elizabeth, Patrick, Thomas, Ellen, Winifred, Sarah, Joseph, Annie, William
Griffith's shows the great majority is Nearys in the Northern prt of Roscommon. and , of course, almost every head was named James or John. Same with the 1901Census
As for the children's names, Margaret was also the name of Elizabeth's sister who also came to Baltimore, Ellen was supposedly Elizabeth's grandmother and William her grandfather.
Below is a picture of Thomas Neary probably taken c. 1880
As soon as I saw the mention of a Roscommon landlord being killed I immediately thought of the londlord Major Denis Mahon. You can see from this link that he was killed in Strokestown in 1847. http://www.fourcourtspress.ie/product.php?intProductID=815
There are estate records available for Lord Pakenham-Mahon. These are at the National Library of Ireland Ms. 10152 and date from 1725 to 1854 for all records. The parishes mentioned include: Bumlin; Cloonfinlough; Elphin; Kilgefin; Kilglass; Kilnamanagh; Kiltrustan; Lisonuffy; Shankill and Kilmacumsy.
You already have the church record for the marriage. Where did they get married?
You could also try checking the land records called the Tithe Applotment Books (1823-38) or the later Griffith's Valuation (1848-64). Griffith's is freely available here: www.askaboutireland.com or here: www.failteromhat.com Failte Romhat has lots of other useful links you could try looking at.Tithe Applotment Books (1823-38). Microfilm copies of the books for all of Ireland are available at the National Archives of Ireland (NAI) http://www.nationalarchives.ie/genealogy1/genealogy-records/tithe-applotment-books-and-the-primary-griffith-valuation/ or the Church of Latter Day Saints (LDS).
You can check for information about the frequency of the name in the mid-19th century and any other variant spellings of the name here: http://www.irishtimes.com/ancestor/surname/ You can also combine two surnames on this site.
There are also Reproductive Loan Fund records 1838-48. These cover muliple parishes and contains more than 9,000 names. You can find this at the UK National Archives T91: http://www.nationalarchives.gov.uk/
1843 Voters list. National Archives of Ireland OP 1843/59.
There are a few books you might find interesting. There is one by Anne Coleman called 'Riotous Roscommon: social unrest un the 1840s', 1999.
Noel Farrell, 'Exploring family origins in old Roscommon town', 1998.
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